Sunday, August 12, 2012

Buku Penderitaan

Halaman buku ini dipenuhi 
tulisan nasib dan catatan luka 
sementara kata-kata
telah lama kekeringan makna. 

Jika diselak 
bau darah menerpa
dari setiap helaian 
rintih pedih hiba tangisan 
mengapung di awangan

keangkuhan mereka 
tidak memandang
mata hati terus terpejam 
meski dihadapkan rentetan malang
disapa resah tulang- temulang
hitam pena kuasa mencoret 
huruf kezaliman tidak bertitik 
angka kematian tidak bernoktah

Semakin tebal buku penderitaan 
terbiar di rak dunia
semakin nipis lembar kemanusian
terhampar di jiwa manusia.

Nazim Mohd Subari
Berita Minggu, 3 Oktober 2004

Monday, July 23, 2012

The 39th Lesson

Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect.
Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I’ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it.
This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson I’ve learned:
You’re not missing out.
Our lives are often ruled by the Fear of Missing Out, or FOMO. (Never heard of FOMO? You’re missing out.)
Some ways we let the fear of missing out rule us:
  1. We check email, Facebook, Twitter and other social networks often, in case we’re missing something important.
  2. We try and do the most exciting things, and are constantly in search of exciting things, because we’re worried we might miss out on the fun that others are having.
  3. We constantly read about what other people are doing, and try to emulate them, because it sounds like they’re doing something great that we’re not.
  4. We often want to travel the world, because it seems that other people are living amazing lives by traveling all the time.
  5. We miss what we don’t have, miss places and people who we aren’t with.
  6. We work constantly, because we think if we don’t, we might miss out on opportunities other people will get.
  7. We feel like our own lives are poor in comparison with the great lives others are leading, and so feel bad about ourselves.
I could go on and on, but I have a birthday breakfast to eat (Eva and the kids are baking something delicious), so I’ll stop there.
We fear missing out, but why?
The truth is, we could run around trying to do everything exciting, and travel around the world, and always stay in touch with our iPhones and Crackberries, and work and party all day long without sleep … but we could never do it all. We will always be missing something.
And so, if we cannot help missing out, what is a saner alternative than letting this fear drive us? Let go of it, and realize you have everything right now.
The best in life isn’t somewhere else. It’s right where you are, at this moment. There is nothing better than exactly that.
Pause for just 10 seconds, and notice where you are, what you’re doing, who you are, at this very moment. Notice that you are breathing, and how lovely that is. Notice that you can smile, and feel the joy in that. Notice the good things around you. Give thanks for the people you’ve seen today. Celebrate the perhaps not altogether insignificant fact that you are alive.
This moment, and who you are, is absolutely perfect.
You are missing nothing, because there is nothing better.
You can breathe, and let go of all that fear of missing out, and be happy with what you have. Be grateful, and each moment think not about what you’re missing, but what you’ve been given.
This past year has been my best ever, because each day I have celebrated my Un-birthday with a smile and warmth in my heart. Today, I celebrate my non-un-birthday, and it is perfect. This moment I have spent talking to you is a gift. Thank you, my friends.

Saturday, July 07, 2012

Connecting with the Lord

Change, for Allah.
Change, for His forgiveness. 
Change, for His Mercy.
Change, to His love. 

there's something that we will always have charge of: our minds.
thus our thoughts. how much of this life can actually improve by us changing how we see things every single day.
how we can love someone else truthfully because of Allah.

Allahurabbi, to You, we will return, please accept us to enter your Jannah. 

Monday, June 11, 2012

Refleksi dunia di India

Kalau kufikirkan
Kuingati semula kisah bangsa selatan-tengah rantauan Asia 
Hidup sempit 
Umpama terpalit dgn perih malang 
Aku rasa 

Rajin, bangsa rajin 
meski terik panas
biar dentuman guruh menemani lebat titis hujan
terus ragut rumput yang hanya sedang panjang 
terus jalan bersama botol-botol minuman utk jualan 
entah siapa lah yang kehausan 

Hidup sukar 
jutaan nyawa cari rezki Tuhan 
jutaan lagi kian datang 
generasi bersilih ganti 

Yang memimpin perlukan pemimpin 
yang mengawal perlukan pengawal 
yang kaya perlu kenal Tuhan 
yang miskin perlu kekal tahan 
 siapa utk diharap, kecuali Tuhan? 

Realiti, ini realiti.
Mungkin juga cuma aku yang rasa.

Thursday, April 05, 2012

The Moral System of Islam

Islam has laid down some universal fundamental rights for humanity as a whole, which are to be observed and respected under all circumstances. To achieve these rights Islam provides not only legal safeguards but also a very effective moral system. Thus whatever leads to the welfare of the individual or the society is morally good in Islam and whatever is injurious is morally bad. Islam attaches so much importance to the love of God and love of man that it warns against too much of formalism. We read in the Quran:

"It is not righteousness that you turn your faces towards East or West; but it is righteousness to believe in God and the Last Day and the Angels, and the Book, and the Messengers; to spend of your substance, out of love for Him, for your kin, for orphans for the needy, for the wayfarer, for those who ask; and for the freeing of captives; to be steadfast in prayers, and practice regular charity; to fulfill the contracts which you made; and to be firm and patient in pain (or suffering) and adversity and throughout all periods of panic. Such are the people of truth, the God-conscious." (2:177)

We are given a beautiful description of the righteous and God-conscious man in these verses. He should obey salutary regulations, but he should fix his gaze on the love of God and the love of his fellow men.

We are given four heads:

Our faith should be true and sincere,

We must be prepared to show it in deeds of charity to our fellow-men,

We must be good citizens, supporting social organizations, and

Our own individual soul must be firm and unshaken in all circumstances.

This is the standard by which a particular mode of conduct is judged and classified as good or bad. This standard of judgment provides the nucleus around which the whole moral conduct should revolve. Before laying down any moral injunctions Islam seeks to firmly implant in man's heart the conviction that his dealings are with God who sees him at all times and in all places; that he may hide himself from the whole world but not from Him; that he may deceive everyone but cannot deceive God; that he can flee from the clutches of anyone else but not from God.

Thus, by setting God's pleasure as the objective of man's life, Islam has furnished the highest possible standard of morality. This is bound to provide limitless avenues for the moral evolution of humanity. By making Divine revelations as the primary source of knowledge it gives permanence and stability to the moral standards which afford reasonable scope for genuine adjustments, adaptations and innovations, though not for perversions, wild variation, atomistic relativism or moral fluidity. It provides a sanction to morality in the love and fear of God, which will impel man to obey the moral law even without any external pressure. Through belief in God and the Day of Judgment it furnishes a force which enables a person to adopt the moral conduct with earnestness and sincerity, with all the devotion of heart and soul.

It does not, through a false sense of originality and innovation, provide any novel moral virtues nor does it seek to minimize the importance of the well-known moral norms, nor does it give exaggerated importance to some and neglect others without cause. It takes up all the commonly known moral virtues and with a sense of balance and proportion it assigns a suitable place and function to each one of them in the total scheme of life. It widens the scope of man's individual and collective life - his domestic associations, his civic conduct, and his activities in the political, economic, legal, educational, and social realms. It covers his life from home to society, from the dining-table to the battlefield and peace conferences, literally from the cradle to the grave. In short, no sphere of life is exempt from the universal and comprehensive application of the moral principles of Islam. It makes morality reign supreme and ensures that the affairs of life, instead of dominated by selfish desires and petty interests, should be regulated by norms of morality.

It stipulates for man a system of life which is based on all good and is free from all evil. It invokes the people, not only to practice virtue, but also to establish virtue and eradicate vice, to bid good and to forbid wrong. It wants that the verdict of conscience should prevail and virtue must not be subdued to play second fiddle to evil. Those who respond to this call are gathered together into a community and given the name "Muslim". And the singular object underlying the formation of this community ("Ummah") is that it should make an organized effort to establish and enforce goodness and suppress and eradicate evil.

Here we furnish some basic moral teachings of Islam for various aspects of a Muslim's life. They cover the broad spectrum of personal moral conduct of a Muslim as well as his social responsibilities.


The Quran mentions it as the highest quality of a Muslim:

"The most honorable among you in the sight of God is the one who is most God-conscious." (49:13)

Humility, modesty, control of passions and desires, truthfulness, integrity, patience, steadfastness, and fulfilling one's promises are moral values which are emphasized again and again in the Quran. We read in the Quran:

"And God loves those who are firm and steadfast." (3:146)

"And vie with one another to attain to your Sustainer's forgiveness and to a Paradise as vast as the heavens and the earth, which awaits the God-conscious, who spend for charity in time of plenty and in time of hardship, and restrain their anger, and pardon their fellow men, for God loves those who do good." (3:133-134)

"Establish regular prayer, enjoin what is just, and forbid what is wrong; and bear patiently whatever may befall you; for this is true constancy. And do not swell your cheek (with pride) at men, nor walk in insolence on the earth, for God does not love any man proud and boastful. And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; for the harshest of sounds, indeed, is the braying of the ass." (31:18-19)

In a way which summarizes the moral behavior of a Muslim, the Prophet (PBUH) said:

"My Sustainer has given me nine commands: to remain conscious of God, whether in private or in public; to speak justly, whether angry or pleased; to show moderation both when poor and when rich, to reunite friendship with those who have broken off with me; to give to him who refuses me; that my silence should be occupied with thought; that my looking should be an admonition; and that I should command what is right."


The teachings of Islam concerning social responsibilities are based on kindness and consideration of others. Since a broad injunction to be kind is likely to be ignored in specific situations, Islam lays emphasis on specific acts of kindness and defines the responsibilities and rights of various relationships. In a widening circle of relationship, then, our first obligation is to our immediate family - parents, husband or wife and children, then to other relatives, neighbors, friends and acquaintances, orphans and widows, the needy of the community, our fellow Muslims, all our fellow human beings and animals.


Respect and care for parents is very much stressed in the Islamic teaching and is a very important part of a Muslim's expression of faith.

"Your Sustainer has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your lifetime, do not say to them a word of contempt nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility and say: My Sustainer! Bestow on them Your mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (17:23-24)


"And render to the relatives their due rights, as (also) to those in need, and to the traveler; and do not squander your wealth in the manner of a spendthrift." (17:26)


The Prophet (PBUH) has said:

"He is not a believer who eats his fill when his neighbor beside him is hungry"; and: "He does not believe whose neighbors are not safe from his injurious conduct."

Actually, according to the Quran and Sunnah, a Muslim has to discharge his moral responsibility not only to his parents, relatives and neighbors but to the entire mankind, animals and trees and plants. For example, hunting of birds and animals for the sake of game is not permitted. Similarly, cutting trees and plants which yield fruit is forbidden unless there is a very pressing need for it.

Thus, on the basic moral characteristics, Islam builds a higher system of morality by virtue of which mankind can realize its greatest potential. Islam purifies the soul from self-seeking egotism, tyranny, wantonness and indiscipline. It creates God-conscious men, devoted to their ideals, possessed of piety, abstinence and discipline and uncompromising with falsehood, It induces feelings of moral responsibility and fosters the capacity for self control. Islam generates kindness, generosity, mercy, sympathy, peace, disinterested goodwill, scrupulous fairness and truthfulness towards all creation in all situations. It nourishes noble qualities from which only good may be expected.

Thank you

Monday, March 26, 2012

Grateful and Grateful.


"Actions are but by intentions and every man shall have only that which he intended. Thus he whose migration (Hijrah to Madeenah from Makkah) was for Allaah and His Messenger, his migration was for Allaah and His Messenger, and he whose migration was to achieve some worldly benefit or to take some woman in marriage, his migration was for that for which he migrated."


Entry kali ini saya ingin share few things tentang sifat-sifat manusia and macam mana kita boleh mengatasi masalah utk bergaul dgn semua orang. Baru baru ini, sekali lagi saya telah mengecilkan hati seorang sahabat saya melalui perckpan sy. mengikut pandangan sy tentang apa yg saya rasa, ramai org berckp melalui apa yg dia expect atau mengikut penerimaan org lain. mainly, apa yg dia rasa benar dan patut.

setelah beberapa kali experience masalah ini dgn ramai orang, pada pendapat sy, adalah fundamental utk kita mengenali sifat2 diri kita sendiri juga sifat2 org2 di sekeliling kita utk mengelakkan kejadian2 seperti ini.

pendapat saya tentang diri saya: setelah sy berbincang dgn few sahabat utk mencari options solusi kepada masalah sy yg baru2 ini.
kami sependapat yg sy mempunyai karakter dominant person and sy adalah seorg yg direct. setelah sy menilai suggestion sahabat sy tntg diri sy, ya sy bersetuju insyaAllah. sifat sy yg dominant ini pd pendapat mereka tidak menganggu mereka namun ia membuatkan mereka 'tidak berani' utk menegur sy. namun, ada sahabat yg lain bersetuju yg saya adalah org yg mudah menerima teguran secara direct.
sy membuat sedikit research tentang diri sy agar mudah sy memahami apa yg orang rasa dgn sy:

Menurut Willian Frank Dietrich dlm "working with dominant people" org dominant selalu direferkan sebagai those people who tend to take charge, to be little abrupt, seem to be arrogant, to be impatient, and don't always listen. It's their way or the highway in many cases. Many people are intimidated by Dominant people. Most of us do not like conflict, but Dominant people always seem willing to create it.

sy bersetuju dgn setiap yg dia suggest tntg dominant ppl, sebagai contoh,
1. mereka sngt focus on task sehingga perasaan org lain kurang terlihat dalam "radar screen" mereka. bukan kerana mereka tidak care, namun mereka kurang aware.
2. mereka adalah golongan yg akan mengejar apa yg dirasakan benar selagi tiada tentangan atau counter argument yg mereka mungkin tersilap. mereka adalah "go for it" person - which some ppl say they are aggressive
3. Kdg kala mereka boleh mencelah perbualan sekiranya dirasakan perlu seperti terdapat gap masa antara perbualan anda dgn orng lain yg menjelaskan seperti anda sedang exhaust your mind utk teruskan perbualan atau seperti anda memerlukan bantuan mereka.
4. mereka adalah result-oriented person. sebab itu kdg2 mereka agak pushy
5. Mereka direct dan jujur (honest) dalam setiap yg dilakukan dan ini adalah masalah besar dlm kehidupan seharian
Dan lain2.

kali ini sy mahu kongsi tentang bagaimana utk deal dgn org2 seperti saya, bear in mind semua sifat2 di atas tadi:
1. anda perlu belajar utk speak up utk perkara yg dirasakan perlu dibincangkan dengannya. kata William "This is where the problem comes. People don't want to confront. They keep quiet, or they speak in vague terms, or they avoid altogether. None of these strategies work.They enable the Dominant person to keep on being insensitive. "
2. Berckp dengan tegas dan tenang dgn org yg dominant tersebut tntg suggestion anda. Kalo anda benar, jelaskan yg anda benar tanpa alasan yg tidak munasabah dan excuses. Kalo anda salah, mengaku yg anda salah dan berikan suggestion yg anda berupaya utk membetulkan. Dgn tegas dan tenang, mereka akan lebih menghormati anda.
3. Jika sikap aggressive mereka melampaui expectation anda, speak up. contoh William, "I once had a Dominant manager who interrupted my report in a meeting and then went on to other business. I met him in his office later. I told him I did not appreciate his interrupting and then eliminating my part of the meeting. I expressed my expectation that I should be able to clearly and concisely speak my part. I made sure I presented myself in a rational way. He didn't realize what he had done and apologized. In other words, if I hadn't told him, he would never had known. I could have kept quiet and nursed my grievance, but how would that have taught him how to treat me?"
4. Jika merasakan mereka terlalu pushy, katakan seperti anda sedang mencari lebih bukti atau informasi utk memastikan anda lebih confident.
5. belajar utk bersikap lebih persuasive dan tegas (firm) daripada sentiasa memikirkan bagaimana teruknya dia.

InsyaAllah, sy bersetuju dgn suggestion2 yg diberikan dalam article tersebut. Saya akan membuat research on bagaimana saya sebagai dominant person deal dgn org yang berlainan character. InsyaAllah sy akan share dlm posting seterusnya.

sy memetik kata2 William sebagai penutup posting ini

"Each personality style has its own unique qualities. Understanding others makes it easier to deal with them. It makes it easier to connect with people in both personal and professional situations. Our resistance to the styles of others makes us ineffective. Complaining about the way others do things distracts us from learning how to work with them. We need to shift our tendency to see people in terms of their faults to an ability to see them in terms of their needs. What does this person need to be great? That is the question we, as leaders, will ask ourselves when we are confronted with others who are motivated differently than we are."

Afwan kepada semua yg sy pernah terkecilkan hati, truly sy tak punya niat utk buat macam tu.
This is fundamental especially dalam sistem dakwah dan tarbiyyah kita semua.
Till here, Peace be upon you, good people :)

Saturday, March 24, 2012